Don't preinstall setuptools and wheel, remove from constraints

Reasons to do this:

- setuptools is no longer the only game in town. When cibuildwheel was created, setuptools was the only way to make wheels. these days, there are many build backends so special casing setuptools doesn't make so much sense
- we don't need to preinstall `wheel` any more, setuptools will do that itself when it needs it.
- projects with pyproject.toml (i.e. the vast majority of projects going forward) don't benefit from the pin anyway, because both `pip` and `build` create an isolated environment to install `build-system.requires` into.
- this makes it easier for end users (such as @webknjaz) to control build-system versions using `PIP_CONSTRAINT`, because there's less potential for a user-specified version to conflict with one of our pins.
  - (long-term, I'd love `build` to [support this directly](https://github.com/pypa/build/issues/292), and then we could have a proper way to keep pyproject.toml dependencies loose and forward-compatible while retaining build determinism. But PIP_CONSTRAINT is the best we have for now. PIP_CONSTRAINT isn't ideal because it affects other things, like the test virtualenv).

This PR also adds a pin for pypa/build. It appears that was missing before, but we should pin it.

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python310.txt

@@ -4,6 +4,8 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.10
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
@@ -11,18 +13,22 @@ distlib==0.3.8
 filelock==3.13.1
     # via virtualenv
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.1.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
+tomli==2.0.1
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   pyproject-hooks
 typing-extensions==4.9.0
     # via delocate
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==69.0.3
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python311.txt

@@ -4,6 +4,8 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.11
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
@@ -11,18 +13,18 @@ distlib==0.3.8
 filelock==3.13.1
     # via virtualenv
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.1.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
 typing-extensions==4.9.0
     # via delocate
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==69.0.3
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python312.txt

@@ -4,6 +4,8 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.12
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
@@ -11,18 +13,18 @@ distlib==0.3.8
 filelock==3.13.1
     # via virtualenv
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.1.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
 typing-extensions==4.9.0
     # via delocate
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==69.0.3
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python36.txt

@@ -4,18 +4,33 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.6
 #
+build==0.9.0
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-distlib==0.3.6
+distlib==0.3.8
     # via virtualenv
 filelock==3.4.1
     # via virtualenv
 importlib-metadata==4.8.3
-    # via virtualenv
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   pep517
+    #   virtualenv
 importlib-resources==5.4.0
     # via virtualenv
+packaging==21.3
+    # via build
+pep517==0.13.1
+    # via build
 platformdirs==2.4.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyparsing==3.1.1
+    # via packaging
+tomli==1.2.3
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   pep517
 typing-extensions==4.1.1
     # via
     #   delocate
@@ -23,16 +38,13 @@ typing-extensions==4.1.1
 virtualenv==20.17.1
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 wheel==0.37.1
-    # via
-    #   -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-    #   delocate
+    # via delocate
 zipp==3.6.0
     # via
     #   importlib-metadata
     #   importlib-resources
+    #   pep517
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==21.3.1
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==59.6.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python37.txt

@@ -4,6 +4,8 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.7
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
@@ -11,11 +13,21 @@ distlib==0.3.8
 filelock==3.12.2
     # via virtualenv
 importlib-metadata==6.7.0
-    # via virtualenv
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   virtualenv
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.0.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
+tomli==2.0.1
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   pyproject-hooks
 typing-extensions==4.7.1
     # via
     #   delocate
@@ -23,13 +35,9 @@ typing-extensions==4.7.1
     #   platformdirs
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 zipp==3.15.0
     # via importlib-metadata
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==68.0.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python38.txt

@@ -4,25 +4,35 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.8
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
     # via virtualenv
 filelock==3.13.1
     # via virtualenv
+importlib-metadata==7.0.1
+    # via build
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.1.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
+tomli==2.0.1
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   pyproject-hooks
 typing-extensions==4.9.0
     # via delocate
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
+zipp==3.17.0
+    # via importlib-metadata
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==69.0.3
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints-python39.txt

@@ -4,25 +4,35 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.9
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
     # via virtualenv
 filelock==3.13.1
     # via virtualenv
+importlib-metadata==7.0.1
+    # via build
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.1.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
+tomli==2.0.1
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   pyproject-hooks
 typing-extensions==4.9.0
     # via delocate
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
+zipp==3.17.0
+    # via importlib-metadata
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==69.0.3
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in

@@ -1,5 +1,4 @@
 pip
-setuptools
-wheel
+build
 delocate
 virtualenv

cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.txt

@@ -4,6 +4,8 @@
 #
 #    nox -s update_constraints-3.12
 #
+build==1.0.3
+    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 delocate==0.10.7
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 distlib==0.3.8
@@ -11,18 +13,18 @@ distlib==0.3.8
 filelock==3.13.1
     # via virtualenv
 packaging==23.2
-    # via delocate
+    # via
+    #   build
+    #   delocate
 platformdirs==4.1.0
     # via virtualenv
+pyproject-hooks==1.0.0
+    # via build
 typing-extensions==4.9.0
     # via delocate
 virtualenv==20.25.0
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-wheel==0.42.0
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
 
 # The following packages are considered to be unsafe in a requirements file:
 pip==23.3.2
     # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in
-setuptools==69.0.3
-    # via -r cibuildwheel/resources/constraints.in