chore: use dependency-groups (#2064)

* chore: use dependency-groups

Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>

* ci: use dep groups in other CIs

Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>

* Apply suggestions from code review

* chore: read dep groups in noxfile

Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>

* Apply suggestions from code review

Co-authored-by: Matthieu Darbois <mayeut@users.noreply.github.com>

* Add dev environment instructions

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Signed-off-by: Henry Schreiner <henryschreineriii@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Matthieu Darbois <mayeut@users.noreply.github.com>
Co-authored-by: Joe Rickerby <joerick@mac.com>

.cirrus.yml

@@ -2,7 +2,8 @@ only_if: changesInclude('.cirrus.yml') || ($CIRRUS_BRANCH == "main" && !changesI
 
 run_tests: &RUN_TESTS
   install_cibuildwheel_script:
-    - python -m pip install -e ".[dev]" pytest-custom-exit-code
+    - python -m pip install dependency-groups
+    - python -m dependency_groups test | xargs python -m pip install -e.
   run_cibuildwheel_tests_script:
     - python ./bin/run_tests.py