Set the defualt build_frontend to be "default" (which is still "pip")

Instead of using pip as the default, set it to default. This way
each platform can choose independently what to do as the default
behavior.

This is intended as part of adding Pyodide support. Pyodide cannot
use pip as the build frontend. It always uses a modified pypa/build.
So if the build_frontend is explicitly set to pip we want to raise
an error. But if it's unset, then we should be able to tell and just
do what we want.

cibuildwheel/util.py

@@ -71,6 +71,15 @@ test_fail_cwd_file: Final[Path] = resources_dir / "testing_temp_dir_file.py"
 
 BuildFrontend = Literal["pip", "build"]
 
+
+def build_frontend_or_default(
+    setting: BuildFrontend | Literal["default"], default: BuildFrontend
+) -> BuildFrontend:
+    if setting == "default":
+        return default
+    return setting
+
+
 MANYLINUX_ARCHS: Final[tuple[str, ...]] = (
     "x86_64",
     "i686",